Okonkwo Samuel
Back then, People used to make Enquiries about their spouse’s family before carrying on with the traditional marriage rites.
The bride’s/groom’s parents would want to know everything about the family their children are getting into.
Some kind of investigation.
The aim was to know if they are outcastes, if there’s any trace of incest in their Lineage, if there’s any genetic disorder or traits and many more..
Those days, it was so easy to let that happen or even proceed with such act because nobody wished the other bad.
Any information then was in all honesty.
Nobody wished the other misfortune.
The eldest men/women were honest and pure.
No one did have to give a false record or lie against an innocent family just to stop good things from happening to them.
No one had to say ill things about a Bride and then, present her own daughter out of jealousy and wish that theirs marry first.
It was called IJU ESE.
Fast forward to our present day, IJU ESE is no more effective, as some villagers would make sure they tarnish your family’s reputation just so you don’t marry before their own children.
Others do it out of the hat.red they have for your parents for no good reason.
Some do it because perhaps, they feel you do not deserve a better partner than their own kids.
This has hugely affected the IJU ESE in Igbo land.
I do not even blame those who jump the IJU ISE process because the World has become so full of E.V.I L that even those you have never wronged before, those you call our friends would still be the ones to paint an ugly image of you out of jeal.ousy.
Even on social media, there are those who cook up lies against innocent people just to have what they feel is too good to be theirs.
If Facebook were to be your village, do you think there are no haters who’d like to blow off your candle for no reason?
You have people who would circulate fake news about you to make sure they tar.nish your image and stop you from being happy.
How do you expect IJU ESE to work?
Those villagers are also on Facebook. They also claim to be activists, Influencers, pastors, Culture promoters, etc.
These people on Facebook have villages too.
What honest truth would you expect from such persons, even if the Bride’s family is 80% good?
Sad.
Do you still support IJỤ̀ ESE?
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